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Lessons learned, late night thoughts, and experiences shared.  

I’ve trekked to one of the highest base camps in the Himalayas, meditated with Tibetan monks in the Dalai Lama’s monastery, spent three months in the swamps of Georgia earning my US Army Infantry patch, walked 550 miles across Spain, lived in Paris, and bungee jumped out of a perfectly good hot air balloon.

I’ve hung out with some of my favorite authors and been the only non-black, non-woman member of the Black Women’s writers’ group.  I’ve written  a novel about love, forgiveness, and facing our fears.

I’ve danced the merengue on hot nights in the Caribbean, kite surfed (badly), sailed off the West coast of France, watched double rainbows, shooting stars, sunrises and sunsets in various parts of the world.

I’ve driven like a maniac on Highway 1, won a San Francisco-wide modeling contest, gotten drunk on the same barstool as Hemingway, watched Ben Kingsley eat a sandwich in his boxers, felt the smooth marble of the Taj Mahal against my bare feet, held the hands of dying patients, sang in the shower (badly), made love to some beautiful and amazing women (not too badly), co-founded a company with the guy who wrote the first browser, and been fortunate enough to work with some of the smartest investors and engineers in Silicon Valley.

Starting blocks are behind me.  Watch out world…..

Favorite Poem (by Hafiz)

One day the sun admitted,

I am just a shadow.
I wish I could show you
The Infinite Incandescence (Tej)

That has cast my brilliant image!

I wish I could show you,
When you are lonely or in darkness,

The astonishing Light

Of your own Being!

You can also find me here:

38 Comments leave one →
  1. Anonymous permalink
    March 14, 2012 12:23 pm

    Thank you also like to share the same was my pleasure to meet you and like you said maybe one of this day see me in San Francisco, take care Javier

  2. March 17, 2012 8:07 pm

    Great bloggie bits. I can never find words for good introspection … unlike you.

  3. bbh permalink
    May 31, 2012 9:29 pm

    Wow, what an awesome self-description. -> Add to bookmarks!

  4. July 3, 2012 9:16 am

    Your book came to me at the most perfect time. Thank you for sharing your story and reminding us all to LOVE! I lived in San Francisco for 3 years. I have many love groove memories formed in my mind, connected with that lovely city! Thank you for reminding me of those jasmine scented, foggy streets. LOVE AND LIGHT FLOWING BACK TO YOU !!!

    • July 3, 2012 10:22 pm

      Loren, my absolute pleasure. Your message made me smile. Thank you.

  5. August 4, 2012 6:04 pm

    just watched a funny hollywood movie ‘yes man’ after reading your book, now they will forever be together in my mind! heeelp! Loved your book, it is a powerful refocusing. i looked at the stars and moonlight drifting clouds and said ‘yes, i love you here now, you are me’.

    • August 22, 2012 3:51 pm

      I love that image, David, looking at the stars and moonlight drifting clouds, and your truth in that moment.

  6. Sherry Abdou permalink
    August 17, 2012 4:41 pm

    Kamal, I’ve now read your book for the second time ( I just downloaded it). I work in a world of books and authors. Many are great. Most are helpful. But, your words left an imprint on my heart. Cheesy… I know. But it’s the truth. I can’t wait to share with my family and loved ones. Thanks for having the courage to share your experience. Somehow I feel that was the universal intent:) Many Thanks,

    • August 22, 2012 3:53 pm

      Hi Sherry,

      I’m honored by your compliment. It means a lot to me. Thank you.

  7. Anonymous permalink
    December 28, 2012 11:08 pm

    thank you for this, very inspiring I wish to experience all that you have…i will embark on this life journey shortly. Pia

  8. January 16, 2013 5:11 pm

    Hey Kamal,

    I just wanted to say thank you, thank you so much for your book, thank you for helping me so find a way to love and accept myself, I’ve gone through a really tough time, tried to kill myself, got into therapy and they said to me that i have a big depression. I fought and fought and fought and many things got better, but i wasn’t able to accept and love myself and I was always wondering: why? And also I was thinking that every achievement to get healthy again means nothing if I’m not able to start to like, love myself and the old thoughts about ending everything came back. Then I read your book and I was amazed, inspired… I don’t know, something changed. I started to love myself.

    Today I’m mentally healthy again, maybe not everything is a rainbow, but I love myself, I care about myself and I really believe in myself. Your book was the key to all this and I just wanted to say thank you, thank you for saving my life.


    • January 16, 2013 11:37 pm

      Hi P, I’m just blown away. Wow. So happy to hear of the changes, am smiling as I type this. Thank you.

  9. Anonymous permalink
    January 25, 2013 5:53 pm

    Hello Kamal
    I could love you – I mean what’s not to love?! ;-/\
    Jan xx

  10. Farid permalink
    February 12, 2013 4:43 am

    I took up meditation after years of postponing it as soon as I finished your book. It’s only a few minutes but well-worth it. Thanks for the remarkable book.

    I have a request from you. Can you add an email newsletter so that we can be easily notified about your new blog posts?

  11. February 14, 2013 11:54 pm

    Farid, I believe you could sign up for email newsletter. I do get email notifications when there’s a new blog post.

  12. Isabel permalink
    April 20, 2013 8:08 am

    Hello Kamal,
    I finished reading your book the minute I received it from amazon. I it is remarkable, I really liked how you created this very easy to follow plan to fall in love with yourself made specifically to start working right away.
    I’ve read every single book in the self-help aisle in every bookstore, that is why I decided to order this book, but this one is a complete honest new approach and extremely effective too… It is the shortest and more efficient book I have read.
    I thank you for sharing your amazing experience with all of us. I finally was able to break the loops that wonder to my mind consistently and causes me to be sad.

    greetings from México

  13. Rita permalink
    June 28, 2013 4:27 pm

    Your book has helped me reach a level of joy that I thought was never possible, Thank You!

  14. Kate permalink
    July 6, 2013 9:26 am

    Thank you so much. In seeking resources for my clients, I stumbled upon your book. Intrigued by the title, I purchased it. It truly is only of the best books I have read; it has elicited an emotional response that I cannot ignore as it has inspired me. I wish I had an endless supply of these books to share with my clients, friends and family!

    Thank you for sharing your experience. It will help so many.

  15. Anonymous permalink
    September 12, 2013 9:23 pm

    Just read your book a few hours ago. I’ve been around these sorts of circles for 25 years now and yours is pithy powerful take, worth passing on. Thank you!!

  16. Lila permalink
    September 12, 2013 9:26 pm

    Your book is a gem that I’m passing on. I’ve been a serious student of transformation for about 25 years and it’s a pleasure to read something that is powerful, pithy and fresh.
    Thank you! Lila

  17. rondia gordon reid permalink
    September 28, 2013 6:19 pm me perfectly new insight when i think of the phrase “living life to the fullest”

  18. November 27, 2013 9:07 pm

    It’s Thanksgiving Eve; what better time to express gratitude. I read your book “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It” very recently and despite having experienced enough therapy, no one had ever taught me how to love myself as successfully as you did in 55 pages. With your simple, three-word mantra. You’re right–there is magic to be seen. As a result of your written word (and the friend who initially recommended your book, Toni Takeno), I have seen the magic you predicted. And it is sublime. I’m on day 27 of the 30-day meditation. I have sent copies of your book to Northern and Southern California. A handful of my friends here in Honolulu have now read it. From Hawaii, copies of your book have also gone to Venezuela and multiple locations in Tennessee. It will continue to travel and be shared. “Thank you” seems like such a small thing to say to you, but there it is. Thank you, Kamal.

    • December 3, 2013 9:56 pm

      That is amazing, Pamela. I’m so grateful for your sharing the book as well. Thank you.

  19. Shachi permalink
    December 3, 2013 6:13 pm

    You are beautiful! I hope in one of your multiple universes our paths cross some day. Thank you for sharing

  20. Mike permalink
    February 8, 2014 5:02 pm

    Just read your first book “Love yourself” today… awesome! Just started reading your second book “Live your truth”… all in one day… awesome! Totally Kamaliezed:)

  21. Julie H. permalink
    February 17, 2014 10:19 am

    Just watched your speech from the Awesomeness Conference called Love Yourself Like Your LIfe Depends on It. . The video was compliments of Mind Valley. It has been such an inspiration to me and I listen to it every morning to get the momentum going. I have picked my one thing to commit to for 30 days and I’m looking forward to making the change a reality! Thanks so much for being so awesome and sharing yourself with us.

  22. Syd permalink
    March 4, 2014 10:01 am

    I Appreciate your words BUT you need to change the Book Cover… monday a client shared her husband is dying – another clients, friends Grandson, committed suicide sunday (age 20) and another clients son’s friends (2 brothers) overdosed on heroin -(ages 21 and 23) the mother was able to revive 1 but lost the other… Tthe cover of the book is WAY TOO intense to give to someone who is reeling from tragedy – the Black image with the Heart, is simple and intense enough – the Gun is ‘over kill’ excuse the Pun… – I could never give this book to these 3 families in their raw state with this image. And I believe it would help them. Be Well.

    • Sam permalink
      April 1, 2014 9:11 pm

      Syd, I agree completely! Love the book. Was thinking about sharing it with my staff and stopped because of the books cover!! Until it is reinvented, I will just share the messages learned within…

  23. April 12, 2014 1:59 pm

    Hey Kamal,

    Just wanted to say that I devoured your book in a day and it really was able to pull me out of a mental rut I had been going through. Your book is very practical and even have a book of my own. I also wanted to share with you that I did a small review on my site for your book to promote it here:

    Truly, thank you for sharing your journey with me and your compassion. Blessings to you my friend,


  24. Dave Mair permalink
    May 28, 2014 6:03 pm

    I saw you on The Blaze and I need to become closer and respect me in a more meaningful direction.

    Thank you,


  25. Vidya permalink
    September 29, 2014 7:57 am

    Hello Kamal – I just completed reading your book “Love Yourself..”. Enjoyed reading it for its simplicity. My challenge with “Loving myself” seems to be in the relationships I encounter daily – my husband, children, colleagues, friends.. It seems like I have always have had to get more efficient, better my ways of dealing with them to have a “Peaceful” state of being around them…Loving myself then becomes last on the priority…

    Not sure what your thoughts are on this..

    • October 12, 2014 10:37 pm

      Hi Vidya, thanks for reading the book. That’s the irony of loving yourself, it ripples out to others in ways greater than you could have imagined. Classic example: oxygen mask to yourself first, then you can help others with theirs.

  26. yolie permalink
    December 4, 2014 10:26 pm

    I am so grateful to have read your book. over 2 years ago I began buying self help books, began reading began meditating began going to workshops began trying to be happy. Your book was a book I bought thru Kindle Love your self like if your life depended on it. Well I left it alone, I never even opened it, honestly I was to busy exploring other books, audio books, classes, prayers, ect ect. (which they did help me out, at least to keep me moving forward. But, it have been up and down one day i am smiling another i am in tears, always trying to win someone over. Kamal, I am a woman who has felt like has to do things for others to be accepted, If i like a guy i will do things like buy them stuff, text them look for them in hopes that they will like me. The few relationships that i have had i have been taken advantage of. I am horrible with friends, i am loyal and a giving person but, at the same time I flake on them I believe that they are not going to miss me much anyways. I remember as a child I never really made friends I was the odd kid. And you know how in the book you state that moms tell you, you should love yourself first, well as much as love my mom and as much as she has been there for me, she has also put me down, and made me feel like no one will fall in love with me. The story I often heard as a child and now as an adult was that my father did not want me, at least he did not want a daughter, my mom and dad are still married but have lived a life of no love. Anyways, I been back and forth lately again trying to win some guys affection, obsessing and how I can make him like me, prior to that i did a similar thing. Trust me at times I feel like a complete psycho and I wonder why I do that. (I do have a history of depression/ADD/OCD and have to take meds.) Well, on sunday I noticed that your book was on audible. (I cannot sit for more than 5 min without getting distracted, reading your book was out of the question.) Well I got the book on audible, on Monday night I was done, My obsession my sadness my beating up myself emotionally and in times physically. Had reach the limit. I have cried and cried and could not find any comfort in anything. Kamal i have listened to your book more than 10 times. And every time I listen to it, something new rings a bell. Maybe it is the most obvious thing in the world, but I could not see it or at least I just could not mustard up the courage to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself I love you. Since monday night like a song i have been mumbling I love myself I love myself, something so simple has made me feel lighter, I been meditating writing expressing how much i love myself. At first it seemed like I was getting nowhere, but, I am worth it, I am loved I am lovable I LOVE MYSELF.
    I know this is so long of a message, but if i could just share all i have gone thru with you it would be so much longer.. Your book is a true blessing I am in awww , i am impressed, today i tested myself out in my place of employment and the simple I love myself keeped me
    on track, Kept me smiling. I have already told friends of mine on how amazing this book is.
    Thank you I appreciate that you shared this book that you wrote it. Everytime i feel
    like a bad thought is coming in I remember your words be kind to it, turn to love..
    AGAIN THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • December 7, 2014 7:38 pm

      I’m so honored, Yolie. Thank you for sharing your journey and all the changes that are happening. If I can ever be of help, please feel free to email me anytime. My email: k (at) founderzen (dot) com.


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